Would you divorce? Advice please?

Of course I would divorce. There is no question about it. I know a lot of men go to strip clubs and have those kinds of urges, but my husband isn't that type at all. So first of all, I would not marry someone who was like that in the first place. But I've had exes who were like that and I just took it as 'normal' and 'acceptable' and put up with it. But please know that there ARE men out there who are NOT like that and you don't deserve to be with some typical moron because you feel like you can't do any better. I understand you're married and you have children with this man... but he will not change. That kind of thing is either in a man or it's not. A man like that cannot have a successful marriage unless the partner is willing to put up with strip clubs, , cheating etc. Obviously you're not okay with that, understandably... but it will not change. Did you know he was like this when you married him? It seems like you have low self esteem to be with him at all, but I understand getting stuck in a rut and getting used to things. But he's not being a husband, or a father... and it's not good enough. I would absolutely get a divorce. Only reason I would divorce was physical violence or cheating. Going to strip clubs, hotels etc is all cheating in our relationship. I'd be 99% sure your husband has had with other women, judging by the urges you already know about.